Well the BSU left for Oregon this afternoon. She had made flight and rental car reservations for herself. I haven't heard from her tonight, so presumably she arrived ok. I Fed Ex'd some meds that needed picking up later than her flight.
I also shipped two coloring books and a new box of 64 Crayolas. The spouse was remembering her childhood and the times she stayed at her sister's house. Theirs was a mighty poor family when my spouse was little but her sister, who was older and married and had her own place, always had a big box of Crayolas. And she would spend time coloring with the younger girls and showing them the intracacies of shading and mixing colors and generally being creative with the younger girls.
That's what my spouse was remembering about her sister. So I bought her two coloring books and a fresh box of 64 Crayolas. They will arrive tomorrow with the meds. Its a lousy birthday present but maybe they will refresh and reinforce some good memories about her sister.
I don't expect that I'll be going to Oregon. I think there will be a pretty low key memorial service for the remaining sisters. The sis that died asked to have her ashes spread on the Oregon beach and I don't think I need to go for that.